The reason that the … The reason that the turnover rate for marriage when u are heavy, then get skinny, is probably due to the fact that a lot of us overwieght people have self esteem issues. I think a lot of us settle for someone thinking nobody else will love us. then there becomes a new confidence and we realize we can do better than the person we are with. I’m talking about really bad people, like the abusers, and people who make us feel bad about ourselves. That is my theory
at 14 months out, … at 14 months out, my husband has increasingly become uneasy with my loss and my appearance. he thinks i’m constantly cheating on him now and that i don’t love him. i’m much happier with myself and more outgoing.. not a homebody anymore. and he can’t stand that. i’ve changed for the better, but he’s changed for the worse.i forsee a divorce within the year. =(
I think the reason … I think the reason the divorce rate is so high is mainly because of the man, not the woman who lost the weight. The man becomes jealous of the attention you receive and the success you achieved. So, I notice women minimizing their accomplishments and trying to remain humble for fear of looking conceited. But that just irritates me. So, ladies don’t try to play down how amazing you are because you’re afraid to outshine your husband or friends. Screw them if they don’t want u 2be happy u know?
Hi Amber.
Thank … Hi Amber.
Thank you for this video.I just had a GB,and im lookin forward to get good results.Thank for being honest about everything.God bless.
James.
hi amber thanks for … hi amber thanks for the videos they r very inspirational, i am currently in the process of trying to get the gb,about the 95%,i was 280 lbs on my wedding say,i have yoyo’d from 295 to 245 througout our marriage & my hunny has had concern for me losing the weight,(he always wanted me to be thin)he said he is scared that if im thin, i will see my self and maybe leave him,and now its just scary to hear that statistic, i hope i (& you!) will be part of that 5% God bless you & your lovely family
I think this is … I think this is truly revealing, I stumbled upon your videos, I am in the process of weight loss surgery. I have done everything but meet the dietician and set the date. I appreciate this video, I really just hope the health problems that I am having go away with this surgery, but I wouldn’t mind being a hottie, lol. Neway, thanks for sharing, your little boy is adorable I have a niece his age and they are so much fun, and I can imagine being able to do much more with her. Have a great day!
I just watched your … I just watched your video. I think you’re beautiful on the inside and on the out. I’ve had the lap-band surgery which didn’t work for me. You’re an inspiration. Can’t wait to see the rest of your stuff. Be Happy! Hugs, Summer
I just saw this … I just saw this video so I haven’t seen the pre-op stuff- but to me, in this vlog- you look like a model. You are absolutely beautiful and definitely a great mommy. I look forward to seeing the rest of your videos.
great thoughts … great thoughts Amber, i am a little scared of changing after i lose weight, this is great insight thanks,
Oh and Gabe, he is such a cutie
I wonder if the … I wonder if the reason for the 95% is that: If we were overweight before marriage, the person we married loved us for the way we were, not what we could be (skinny). I know my husband could care less if I weighed 150 pounds or 400 pounds. I think that alot of the changes are you feel more secure in yourself when you weigh less. I also hope you are in the 5%, as well as everyone else on here.
It’s good to hear … It’s good to hear you talk about being realistic and not having granduouse (sp?) visions. But, also to hear you say to appreciate how far you have come when you get there.
As far as buying … As far as buying new ones… I SURE DID!! I have shopped like crazy b/c I figured I worked hard to get this weight off and I’m going to have some cute clothes to wear!!
As I dropped sizes … As I dropped sizes I got rid of them asap! LOL I had a garage sale last summer and got rid of some, then I boxed up a lot of my size 22-24′s and gave them to a teenage girl who couldn’t afford new clothes. Then the 16′s-20′s I gave away to friends. The 12′s -14′s went to another friend. Then 10′s went to my mom…. Now the 8′s are still in my closet but I’m not wearing them. I’m in 6′s!!
I think the 95% … I think the 95% shows that the self esteem of people goes up after wls. Many of those who married heavy settled. They didn’t believe they deserved to be treated well. After they lost the weight they didn’t put up with someone who treated them badly. Or like you said they started acting 18 again.
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1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
you look fantastic …
you look fantastic you and your hubby will be fine good for you girl how much have you lost. I think you look fab
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
The reason that the …
The reason that the turnover rate for marriage when u are heavy, then get skinny, is probably due to the fact that a lot of us overwieght people have self esteem issues. I think a lot of us settle for someone thinking nobody else will love us. then there becomes a new confidence and we realize we can do better than the person we are with. I’m talking about really bad people, like the abusers, and people who make us feel bad about ourselves. That is my theory
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
at 14 months out, …
at 14 months out, my husband has increasingly become uneasy with my loss and my appearance. he thinks i’m constantly cheating on him now and that i don’t love him. i’m much happier with myself and more outgoing.. not a homebody anymore. and he can’t stand that. i’ve changed for the better, but he’s changed for the worse.i forsee a divorce within the year. =(
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
I think the reason …
I think the reason the divorce rate is so high is mainly because of the man, not the woman who lost the weight. The man becomes jealous of the attention you receive and the success you achieved. So, I notice women minimizing their accomplishments and trying to remain humble for fear of looking conceited. But that just irritates me. So, ladies don’t try to play down how amazing you are because you’re afraid to outshine your husband or friends. Screw them if they don’t want u 2be happy u know?
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
Hi Amber.
Thank …
Hi Amber.
Thank you for this video.I just had a GB,and im lookin forward to get good results.Thank for being honest about everything.God bless.
James.
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
hi amber thanks for …
hi amber thanks for the videos they r very inspirational, i am currently in the process of trying to get the gb,about the 95%,i was 280 lbs on my wedding say,i have yoyo’d from 295 to 245 througout our marriage & my hunny has had concern for me losing the weight,(he always wanted me to be thin)he said he is scared that if im thin, i will see my self and maybe leave him,and now its just scary to hear that statistic, i hope i (& you!) will be part of that 5% God bless you & your lovely family
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
I think this is …
I think this is truly revealing, I stumbled upon your videos, I am in the process of weight loss surgery. I have done everything but meet the dietician and set the date. I appreciate this video, I really just hope the health problems that I am having go away with this surgery, but I wouldn’t mind being a hottie, lol. Neway, thanks for sharing, your little boy is adorable I have a niece his age and they are so much fun, and I can imagine being able to do much more with her. Have a great day!
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
I just watched your …
I just watched your video. I think you’re beautiful on the inside and on the out. I’ve had the lap-band surgery which didn’t work for me. You’re an inspiration. Can’t wait to see the rest of your stuff. Be Happy! Hugs, Summer
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
You are too kind w/ …
You are too kind w/ the model comment!! LOL Thanks for watching!!
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
I just saw this …
I look forward to seeing the rest of your videos.
I just saw this video so I haven’t seen the pre-op stuff- but to me, in this vlog- you look like a model. You are absolutely beautiful and definitely a great mommy.
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
Oh I loved that …
Oh I loved that unsolicited kiss! Off to watch the rest.
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
Thanks! I think …
Thanks! I think I’m learning that we just have to keep our head on straight and we’ll be fine!!
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
great thoughts …
great thoughts Amber, i am a little scared of changing after i lose weight, this is great insight thanks,
Oh and Gabe, he is such a cutie
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
Me too!
Me too!
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
I wonder if the …
I wonder if the reason for the 95% is that: If we were overweight before marriage, the person we married loved us for the way we were, not what we could be (skinny). I know my husband could care less if I weighed 150 pounds or 400 pounds. I think that alot of the changes are you feel more secure in yourself when you weigh less. I also hope you are in the 5%, as well as everyone else on here.
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
Just tryin’ to keep …
Just tryin’ to keep it real.
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
It’s good to hear …
It’s good to hear you talk about being realistic and not having granduouse (sp?) visions. But, also to hear you say to appreciate how far you have come when you get there.
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
As far as buying …
As far as buying new ones… I SURE DID!! I have shopped like crazy b/c I figured I worked hard to get this weight off and I’m going to have some cute clothes to wear!!
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
Thanks for watching …
Thanks for watching!!!
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
I’m glad I could …
I’m glad I could help!!
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
Yep. Totally!
Yep. Totally!
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
As I dropped sizes …
As I dropped sizes I got rid of them asap! LOL I had a garage sale last summer and got rid of some, then I boxed up a lot of my size 22-24′s and gave them to a teenage girl who couldn’t afford new clothes. Then the 16′s-20′s I gave away to friends. The 12′s -14′s went to another friend. Then 10′s went to my mom…. Now the 8′s are still in my closet but I’m not wearing them. I’m in 6′s!!
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
love those little …
love those little man kisses! I so jive on your posts…. You are easy to listen to. Thanks for sharing!
peace~M~
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
I’m worried about …
I’m worried about how being banded in July will change my relationship. Thanks for addressing this issue!
1:57 am on May 3rd, 2009
I think the 95% …
I think the 95% shows that the self esteem of people goes up after wls. Many of those who married heavy settled. They didn’t believe they deserved to be treated well. After they lost the weight they didn’t put up with someone who treated them badly. Or like you said they started acting 18 again.